Being nice is usually a good approach to most everyone. Even more important is being nice to you. Listen and see if you agree. I’ll bet you do.
Does sheltering in place put added pressure on your family? Are your family relationships subject to increased jeopardy? Is your family at heightened risk? The answers to all of these questions is, “It depends.” It depends on how well you personally handle the added stress and how conscientiously you attend to the pressures and stresses on your family relationships. The episode includes some tips and perspectives that you may find helpful.
I am reluctantly considering the conclusion that much of what I have believed for as long as I have believed anything may represent far more hope than truth. Sure, I admit to taking it for granted that things actually are the way I have always thought they are, that my reality is valid and based on the true and factual, and that my sense of what’s real is correct and axiomatic. Naive? Simple-minded? Perhaps dangerous? Indeed. But nonetheless, I believed.
I take some comfort in knowing that a preference for belief over thoughtful consideration didn’t just start with me. The Roman philosopher Seneca observed that “Every man prefers belief to the exercise of judgment.” It’s likely that the “exercise” part of exercising judgment is the showstopper for many, if not most of us. For me at least, it has been easier to relax and believe.
Robert Brault got it right when he pointed out that “An old belief is like an old shoe. We so value its comfort that we fail to notice the hole in it.” To my surprise and disappointment, I am starting to notice cracks if not actual holes in some of my most trusted beliefs. The cause and solution may be as simple as E D Martin suggests, “It is easier to believe than to doubt.”
Laziness? Indifference? Bertrand Russell says it’s our inherent credulity. “Man is a credulous animal, and must believe something; in the absence of good grounds for belief, he will be satisfied with bad ones.” Perhaps I should add gullibility to lazy and naive. The picture is not looking good.
From time to time, it’s time to revisit The Friend Factory. This is the time, no matter whether you are eight or eighty. We all need reminded now and then.
Do you have the key to perfect intimate relationships? The problem is that there are way more than a single key. But having 1 key is a good start. Try this one. It may unlock more than you might expect.
Your mental health matters. It starts with being nice to yourself. Listen and hear how it is done.
If what you see is one big happy family, there may be many reasons and explanations, not that any of these are necessary. Happy is normally its own accounting. If what you see is one big unhappy family, there are only a few likely reasons, and explanations totally depend on who you ask. Emotional distress, psychological and interpersonal malfunction and unhealthy family environments typically have their base in only a limited number of problems and issues. Being able to spot these problems and issues is the key to helping your family avoid even more devastating unhappiness. In this episode of Audio Tidbits Podcast, I share with you a series of vignettes that illustrate the range of mental health and interpersonal issues unhappy families commonly experience. I am simply assuming that you know enough to find qualified help if any of these signs of serious difficulty show up in your family.
We are told that we should accept the things we can’t change, but should we really? The truth of the matter is that I don’t think that I know what that means. Whether I do or don’t, I do know that it likely doesn’t matter whether I accept what I can’t change or not. Things and people are pretty much as they are and there isn’t much we are going to do about that; and trying to move that rock is one big waste of our time and energy.
If you think I should change, I might change but…. Sure, there is always a but. It could happen but most likely not any time soon or in the way you want me to change. If you don’t opt to just give up on me, your time and energy will be best invested in helping me succeed in being who I want me to be. Please press play and consider how that might work.
Are you mostly a person who is passing virtue or are you more apt to stay in the virtue zone? It’s a pretty simple choice, but making it is very far from easy or obvious. Perhaps you will choose to take a few minutes to check out a conversation I was having with my digital friend, a self-rated expert on most everything.
How often do you have to deal with difficult situations, difficult people or times when what to do, what to say, or how to proceed are unclear? What about those moments when you are tempted to do or say something just to get past the immediate stress and discomfort? It just may be that it is time to step back to step up. Press play and listen to see how that strategy would work for you.
Now and then, just going along to get along is a really good idea. It’s the easiest and most hassle-free way to deal with some people and some situations. The key here is “some.” The problem starts when “some” transitions to “most” or even to “all.” Just going along to get along becomes a serious commitment to eventually disappearing as a valuable, important person who matters to you and who should matter to others. In this episode of Audio Tidbits Podcast, I discuss the down side of just going along to get along and suggest a healthier alternative. Please listen and consider where you come down on just going along to get along.
Have you ever experienced a life changing event? I’m not talking about an event that prompted change in how you do something, think about things or how you handle some situations or circumstances. I am thinking about a fundamental change in who you are and how you perceive yourself and the world around you. You suddenly become a different person, someone who thinks, feels and behaves unlike the person you were. The notion is worth a careful thought or so. Please listen and see if you agree with my perspective on life changing events and real personal change.
Have you ever heard someone say, “No one intimidates me?” What do you think? Perhaps you have said that yourself.
I suspect that the person who makes such a declaration is somehow missing the obvious or maybe just doesn’t get it. Even if we are the best in the world at something we do, we aren’t the best in the world at everything we do. In this episode, I discuss those times when we aren’t the best and know it. There is someone or many someones who are much better at what we want to do than we are.
What do you do or want to do, knowing that you aren’t the best and most likely won’t ever come close to being the best? Who do you know that is much better at it than you are? That is where to look when trying to decide who intimidates you.
If this all rings a little bell for you, press play and listen. I have a tip you may find helpful.
How do you deal with your stress? You ask, “What makes you think I have stress?” Well, it’s pretty simple. We all have times of stress. It may be very stressful or only a little stressful, but stress it is. It may be what they call good stress that helps us deal with important situations and people, or it may be the bad kind that gets us down and is hard to handle. Nonetheless, stress is not something any of us can avoid.
In this episode of Audio Tidbits Podcast, I discuss how to handle the bad stress in our lives. Please listen. You may find the tip I share helpful as you deal with the stress in your life, as you appreciate the real value for all of us in having someone we can lean on.
When you hear the word “gossip,” do you lean toward thinking that gossip is a bad thing or toward thinking gossip is good? I suspect we are told more times that gossip is bad and that it’s not good to gossip. Well, what if I told you that not only is gossip good, it is essential to our survival in our families, our communities, and in our world? We can’t get along without it. Are you doubting me? Are you losing confidence in my judgment? Please listen and then decide. I think you may be surprised.