It’s a pretty simple point but nonetheless too often missed. When emotions are running hot, especially when anger and frustration dominate, calm most always wins. So slow down, calm down and wait your turn. It will come, and when it does, you are in the power position.
What happens when someone doesn’t meet your expectations, doesn’t do as well as you had hoped? Is your reaction negative and critical? Well, ok, but take it easy.
You aren’t going to win’em all, but nonetheless we try. If that means we always give best effort, good for us. If it means we feel like failures, shame on us. The point is even more true when we respond to others and especially to our children.
It’s always good to compliment someone who did particularly well, who’s work is an example of excellence. Even better is the second compliment. Twice complimented is the extra that makes the difference now and then.
I think you may enjoy this remix of a fun episode from a year ago or so. Mr. Little goes to Audio School.
For most of us, being successful is not enough. We also need to get paid.