When people watching as meditation, the key is to focus on the ambience and stay inside the scene. Pick a small patio table toward the edge, sit back, focus and let your mind grock the gestalt. By the end of the twenty minutes, you will definitely be in the zone.
Let’s talk some more about introverts. Earlier I told you about Introvert month. It was a big success. It’s about time that extroverts quit getting all the attention simply because they spend so much time socializing and getting in other’s faces. We introverts are here too, and doing just fine thank you.
There are a couple of things everyone needs to be clear about. We introverts are neither bashful nor shy. …
Rate your stress from 1 (low) to 10 (high). Press play on the episode. Ask your imagination to bring up the scene. Who is there? Where is there? What is happening? Keep your attention on the scene until the end. Now, rate your stress again.
In the last episode, we took a swing back when silly was fun. Well, silly is still fun, even if we have gotten too old for that nonsense.
Do you remember back when silly was fun? There were knock-knock jokes and then all those one-liners for the young and even those not so old got a chuckle now and then.
• All men are created equal,
• They are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights,
Among these are
• The pursuit of Happiness.
To secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men,
• Deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed.
Welcome to a new way to meditate. When you think about meditation, what comes to mind? If you ponder traditional meditation, nothing comes to mind. That’s the idea. Suspend reality and turn into your inner self.
If traditional meditation works for you, may the inner peace consume you as you find your center. But when traditional meditation does not work, a new way to meditate is here for you.
The experience you are undertaking lasts about forty minutes and does not require suspension of reality. Use the first segment to focus and listen. If your attention drifts, there is a dancing blue elephant there for your enjoyment. Find her and let yourself smile as you focus on her and the music.
As the music shifts, go with it. Nothing needs suspension. Stay with the music. It takes you on a changing journey to wherever you go. At any time, the dancing blue elephant is there for you, tempting back your attention on her and the music.
If convenient, listen with earbuds or however you like to send the music directly into your awareness. If not, just listen and stay with the journey. Either way, when you come to the end, a better space awaits.
There is usually at least a tiny grain of truth hidden somewhere behind even the most absurd belief. For example, if you lend a book to someone, you might as well kiss it good-bye. You won’t get it back without asking for it back, and maybe not even then. If you’re a library, you’ll probably get it back; but for anyone else, lending books is about the same as giving them away.
What is the belief? People don’t return borrowed books when they borrow them from other people.
There is a grain of truth here. Some people aren’t good about returning borrowed books and perhaps that’s most people, depending on who you lend your books to.
Is this true on average? I don’t know and doubt that you know either. Even so, I believe it. How about you? Do people return books other people lend to them?
Now suppose that I ask you to lend me a book. If you think people don’t return borrowed books, you might give the book to me, not expecting it to be returned. However, if you think people are good and usually return borrowed books, you still may not lend it to me, depending on the value of the book to you. But why?
When we make choices involving other people, we are always playing the odds, using our own idiosyncratic computational system. We attach odds to their doing or not doing something, the likelihood of their behaving one way or another, the probability of their reacting as we expect or surprising us instead. Our action, behavior or involvement with them then depends on those calculations. First comes the calculation and then we act, based on our nearly instantaneous decision process.