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Did You Intend to…?

How much better would your world be if other people just understood that you seldom intend to say or do whatever is annoying or frustrating them? Let’s think about how that might work.

People seldom intend to be jerks. I think we have all had to deal with someone who is just being a jerk. They are being difficult and impossible to cope with due to their seeming to be stupid, insensitive, hopelessly self-centered or clueless, or maybe all of the above. But are we ever the jerk in the picture? We sure don’t intend to be the jerk but we probably have our jerk moments, at least from the perspective of other people. As reasonable and as appropriate as we try to be, even nice people like us may slip into jerk mode at times.

People seldom intend to do less than their best. Do they always make an effort to do everything they can do as well as they can do it? No, people surely don’t do that. Rather, they usually make their best effort to do as much as they think is necessary and to do it as well as they think it needs done. The problem is that we may not agree that they have done enough or done it as well as we needed it done. Our issue is that we wanted more or better. From our perspective, the other person could have and should have done more or done better. It seems to us that we haven’t gotten his or her best effort. We have to deal with a shirker, with someone who is lazy or is sloppy and half does things. Of course we always give everything we do our best effort, always do things correctly and completely – or do we?

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Fault Finders and Finger Pointers

The title pretty much sums it up. We all have had to deal with one of those fault finders and finger pointers. It’s frustrating sure enough. The podcasting team has a collection of examples for us, just in case they have temporarily slipped our mind.

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Bad Days?

What’s your notion of a bad day? I’m not thinking here about big events that foretell major or lasting consequences. Rather I am thinking about those little annoyances and inconveniences that disrupt our otherwise comfortable and more or less predictable days.

You know the kinds of things I am talking about: not being able to find your car keys, dropping your iPhone and cracking the screen, dripping coffee on your clean shirt, getting a phone call that you have to take just as you are leaving the house when you’re already running ten minutes late, remembering as you head out for lunch that you were supposed to be at the dentist two hours ago, realizing that you still haven’t started that report your boss needs this afternoon and you had planned to finish yesterday. …


Perspectives on Politics

Here are ten perspectives on politics that I never said but find worth a thought or two. If you really care who did say them, check on where I found them.

1. Before you can begin to think about politics at all, you have to abandon the notion that there is a war between good men and bad men.

2. Politics: A strife of interests masquerading as a contest of principles. The conduct of public affairs for private advantage.

3. Mud-slinging – In politics, anything bad the opponent says about our candidate; in contrast, when our candidate does this, it is called ‘making a good point.’

4. Politics is the gentle art of getting votes from the poor and campaign funds from the rich, by promising to protect each from the other.

5. Every two years the American politics industry fills the airwaves with the most virulent, scurrilous, wall-to-wall character assassination of nearly every political practitioner in the country — and then declares itself puzzled that America has lost trust in its politicians.

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Driving Everyone Up The Wall

Have you ever wondered how frustrated people manage to be so frustrating? Well, it requires a set of skills that most people don’t have but can develop, with practice. If you aspire to be among the frustrating elite, here is a full dozen of the most useful techniques for totally frustrating people. With time and concentration, even amateurs can become proficient at frustrating most anyone. The only requirement is to creatively expand these techniques to numerous relationships and to add new and innovative techniques as you go along. Read and judge for yourself.

1. Always play it safe; and above all, don’t take any chances. If it is not in writing, either get it in writing or refuse to do it until it is in writing. If it is already in writing, ask for clarification. Once you have gotten clarification, check with a few other people to see what their understanding is and then ask for a meeting to discuss the confusion everyone is experiencing.

2. Put most of your time and energy into worrying and hoping nothing changes. When things do change, ask for written procedures and clarification. Once you get clarification, suggest that the changes be put off until everyone has had an opportunity to provide input and to discuss the long-term implications of the changes. After everything has been discussed at least twice, take your sweet old time getting with the new program, letting everyone you talk to know that the changes are causing things to back up and nothing is getting done.

3. Avoid taking responsibility for anything. Certainly don’t volunteer and be reluctant even if asked. If you can’t avoid it, ask for written instructions and check back often for additional instructions and clarification. If someone tells you, “If you can’t handle this, I will find someone who can,” you should say, “That’s an excellent idea. I really have too many other responsibilities to handle this right now anyway.”

4. Don’t put up with the quirks and idiosyncrasies of other people. You know how to behave and they should too. If there is anything about them or the way they do things that you know isn’t the way people should act, mention it to a few people. Say something like, “I suppose you have heard what people are saying about so-and-so.” Not one person in a hundred will resist saying, “No, what?” Now just lay it out, being careful to emphasize that, although you don’t feel that way personally, other people are getting pretty fed up with it and that you just want to give everyone a head’s up about the problems that are brewing out there.


Dropbox Disappoints

It’s always annoying to be disappointed but when Dropbox disappoints, my annoyance is elevated to total frustration. I have used Dropbox for several years with zero annoyance, disappointment, or frustration. It just worked… but no more.

Sure, Dropbox still works as usual on my Windows 7 laptop. The total frustration comes complements of Windows 10. It is a totally terrific operating system but the Dropbox engineers seem to have given it a pass. That is particularly true after the latest spring update. Dropbox just doesn’t work on my Windows 10 computer.

To add insult to injury, I tried to contact Dropbox support and was summarily ignored. Yes, I politely used their web form to let them know that Dropbox was not working on my Windows 10 computer and nicely ask for help. I got no reply, no help.

I have switched my cloud backup option to OneDrive. I am hoping that Microsoft can make a backup option that works on any Windows computer. So Far, so good. I will keep Dropbox on my Windows 7 computer, at least until I manage to retrieve my files from their black box in the cloud. I think I would have been somewhat OK had they told me that they were working on the problem and would keep me posted on their progress; but not a word from Dropbox. As best I can tell from Google, I am not alone. It seems that other Dropbox customers are similarly disappointed. Oh well, it’s their company and my problem is mine. It’s obviously not something that concerns them.

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HTM 159 – Do You Have A Point? – How To Matter – Audio TidBits Podcast

The How To Matter podcast team is having a rambling chat ranging from frustration to whatever comes next. Like most casual discussions, the topic shifts with no particular theme. Let’s listen in to see how well we do following the conversation.

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HTM 156 – May I Drive You Up The Wall, Please? – How To Matter – Audio TidBits Podcast

Do you wonder how the frustrating elite of the world manage to be so successful at driving everyone up the wall? Are you frequently impressed by their expertise? Do they have a skill set you want to emulate? Perhaps not but if at least knowing more about how they do what they do seems potentially helpful, please listen and learn.