In the last episode, we took a swing back when silly was fun. Well, silly is still fun, even if we have gotten too old for that nonsense.
Do you remember back when silly was fun? There were knock-knock jokes and then all those one-liners for the young and even those not so old got a chuckle now and then.
• All men are created equal,
• They are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights,
Among these are
• The pursuit of Happiness.
To secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men,
• Deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed.
Welcome to a new way to meditate. When you think about meditation, what comes to mind? If you ponder traditional meditation, nothing comes to mind. That’s the idea. Suspend reality and turn into your inner self.
If traditional meditation works for you, may the inner peace consume you as you find your center. But when traditional meditation does not work, a new way to meditate is here for you.
The experience you are undertaking lasts about forty minutes and does not require suspension of reality. Use the first segment to focus and listen. If your attention drifts, there is a dancing blue elephant there for your enjoyment. Find her and let yourself smile as you focus on her and the music.
As the music shifts, go with it. Nothing needs suspension. Stay with the music. It takes you on a changing journey to wherever you go. At any time, the dancing blue elephant is there for you, tempting back your attention on her and the music.
If convenient, listen with earbuds or however you like to send the music directly into your awareness. If not, just listen and stay with the journey. Either way, when you come to the end, a better space awaits.
Of course you have to get on your pony and ride, but don’t be too quick — or too slow for that matter. In this episode, I offer three keys to effective leadership. I think you will find them very useful perspectives as you lead others.
There is usually at least a tiny grain of truth hidden somewhere behind even the most absurd belief. For example, if you lend a book to someone, you might as well kiss it good-bye. You won’t get it back without asking for it back, and maybe not even then. If you’re a library, you’ll probably get it back; but for anyone else, lending books is about the same as giving them away.
What is the belief? People don’t return borrowed books when they borrow them from other people.
There is a grain of truth here. Some people aren’t good about returning borrowed books and perhaps that’s most people, depending on who you lend your books to.
Is this true on average? I don’t know and doubt that you know either. Even so, I believe it. How about you? Do people return books other people lend to them?
Now suppose that I ask you to lend me a book. If you think people don’t return borrowed books, you might give the book to me, not expecting it to be returned. However, if you think people are good and usually return borrowed books, you still may not lend it to me, depending on the value of the book to you. But why?
When we make choices involving other people, we are always playing the odds, using our own idiosyncratic computational system. We attach odds to their doing or not doing something, the likelihood of their behaving one way or another, the probability of their reacting as we expect or surprising us instead. Our action, behavior or involvement with them then depends on those calculations. First comes the calculation and then we act, based on our nearly instantaneous decision process.
The home turf of the Great Mouse has apparently been discovered by our intrepid hunters. On her home turf, the Great Mouse is not on her own. There she has allies and friendly forces. Our intrepid hunters are in for a battle. Will they prevail? Will they finally best the Great Mouse? Which side will prevail? Let’s listen. Do recall that we earlier learned that the Great Mouse may only be a figment of the imaginations of our intrepid hunters. Is this the time we will finally learn the truth? I turn it over to your imagination and judgment.
• Have you noticed that some people have an unusual ability to get others to do what they want them to do?
• Have you noticed that things consistently turn out better for some people than for others?
• Have you noticed that some people seldom end up with the short end of the stick while others frequently come up short?
• Have you noticed that some people regularly follow through with whatever they undertake while others often falter or end up just quitting?
• Have you noticed that, for some people, their influence bubble expands over time, while for other people, their influence bubble stays small or may even contract over time?
Although you have likely already answered, “Yes,” to all five questions, let’s set some qualifications or conditions to make sure we are making an apples to apples comparison. Instead of thinking about everyone compared to everyone, let’s limit ourselves to what we can call childhood reference groups. Think about you and your childhood reference group as I reframe the five questions.