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• I am a perfectionist
• Either it is right or it is wrong
• Rules are rules
These types of phrases frequently come up when you try to manage warriors. Interestingly, players who use this technique are likely to make their pronouncements when others are around and will overhear. When focusing their play on one person usually a subordinate warriors like to be sure others hear so they learn not to test the player. They have been forewarned.
Warriors step on the feelings of others
Since most people are at least a little insecure about their competence and ability to work with others, these players play on others’ insecurities. Some phrases from an office environment are instructive.
• That is trash
• More of the same old stuff
• Dragging your feet
• Out of your area of expertise
• Roadblock
• They followed by any negative pronouncement
Add any other phrase or statement to the list implying that the other person is at fault, incompetent or less skilled and cooperative than the player. The key is to get them where it hurts. …