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3: The Journey Within
The days turned into weeks as Hannah and Jeff delved into the depths of their hearts, seeking clarity and understanding. They sat across from each other at their kitchen table, ready to embark on a journey of self- reflection and open communication.
They had taken Sarah’s advice to heart, realizing that their assumptions and unspoken expectations had led them down a path of misunderstanding. They were determined to bridge
the gap and redefine their relationship, but they knew it wouldn’t be easy.
Hannah started, her voice filled with vulnerability. “I’ve realized that I often expect you to read my mind and understand my needs without me having to express them,” she admitted. “But that’s not fair to you. I need to communicate my desires and expectations openly, without assuming you should just know.”
Jeff nodded in agreement, a weight lifting off his shoulders. “I’ve come to understand that I haven’t been as attentive as I thought,” he confessed. “I need to be more present and actively listen to your needs. I can’t expect you to always be the one to initiate affection or appreciation.”
With each revelation, their bond grew stronger. They began to understand that love wasn’t just about grand gestures or extravagant displays of affection. It was about the little things, the daily acts of kindness and consideration that showed they truly cared for each other.
They made a pact to implement small changes in their daily lives. Hannah started expressing her needs and desires more openly, while Jeff made a conscious effort to actively listen and respond to her. They discovered the power of gratitude,
expressing appreciation for even the smallest gestures.
As the weeks went by, Hannah and Jeff noticed a shift in their relationship. The once constant arguments and feelings of resentment were replaced with understanding and compassion. They began to see each other’s efforts and appreciate the love that was always there, but had been overshadowed by their own insecurities.
One evening, as they sat on their balcony, sipping wine and watching the sunset, Hannah turned to Jeff with a smile. “You know,” she began, “I’ve come to realize that it’s not about who treats who better. It’s about treating each other with love, respect, and understanding. It’s about being there for each other, even in the smallest of ways.”
Jeff nodded, his eyes filled with love. “I couldn’t agree more,” he said. “We’ve learned that love isn’t a competition, but a partnership. It’s about supporting each other’s dreams and being each other’s biggest cheerleaders.”
With their newfound understanding, Hannah and Jeff embarked on a journey of growth and self-discovery. They encouraged each other to pursue their passions and dreams, knowing that their individual happiness would only strengthen
their bond.
They continued to communicate openly, never shying away from discussing their needs and desires. They understood that relationships required constant effort and were willing to put in the work to ensure their love thrived.
Here’s what they came up with to explain to each other how they expected to be treated, how they are committing to treat each other. They agreed that their friend Sarah would approve.
We both like it when things are fair so here’s what you should do. Watch how I handle things, then treat me like I treat you.
I get into a bad mood once in a while and you get into bad moods too. Watch how I manage my bad moods, then treat me like I treat you.
I may have a lot of things to say or I may only have a few. Watch how I listen when you talk, then treat me like I treat you.
Sometimes you get mad at me and sometimes I get mad too. Watch how I handle the angry times, then treat me like I treat you.
There are things that are important to me and things I expect of you. Watch how I handle your counting on me, then treat me like I treat you.
There are places I expect you to be and there are times to be there too. Watch how I manage being places on time, then treat me like I treat you.
Honesty is something that matters a lot so be sure what you tell me is true. Watch how honest I try to be, then treat me like I treat you.
You make commitments so I’ll know what to expect and there are things you promise to do. Watch how I handle commitments I make, then treat me like I treat you.
There are times when I am happy and there are times when I am blue. Watch how I handle your ups and downs, then treat me like I treat you.
There are things I want to experience and there are things I want to do. Watch how I support your hopes and dreams, then treat me like I treat you.
For now, be well, do well and do something nice for someone. He or she will appreciate it and you both will have a better day.