A Special Six Pack
Wow! The “basics” can get a bit
heady. How about a six pack for a change of pace? Maybe you have a six pack of
your own that is a little more quenching, so to speak. If so, pop a top and
relax; and if a cold brew is not your style, a tall ice tea works just as well.
You need only get comfortable, open your mind to the possibilities, and drink
it in. This six pack’s for you.
Slot one in this special six-pack is
reserved for dependability. If you tell someone they can depend on you, does
that mean your commitment to them is as if you made it to yourself? If so,
people need only watch you to see how well you take care of yourself. That is
as dependable as you are capable of being; so there you go.
energetic and ready to fly at a moments notice.
Slot two is reserved for energy. If you
were born tired and haven’t rested up yet, you may as well hang it up; but if
you are energetic and prepared to give every opportunity your best, you may be
ready to join the ardent high-flyers.
consider what is important to other people.
Slot three is set aside for consideration.
If you are ready for the give-and-take of living and working with people, you always
take their needs and interests, goals and motivations into consideration. You
don’t reflexively defer to their values and beliefs, want to’s and got to’s;
but you put them into the equation as you set your priorities and make your
being honest with yourself as priority No. 1 and consistently apply the
Slot four is for honesty. Sure, you are as
good as your word; and when you make a commitment, people can take it to the
bank, as they say; but this version of honesty isn’t for other people. It’s for
you. Are your motivations as pure as you say they are; are you as committed as
you claim; are you as interested in others as you seem; are you being as
straight-up and forthcoming as you profess to be? It’s a fact you can fool some
people all the time and most everyone now and then; but fooling yourself is
worse than foolish. It’s taking dishonesty to a new and often irreversible low.
your positive approach every time, with everyone.
Slot five is saved for the positive approach.
This is not the pasted on smile, glad hand, and “Isn’t everything
wonderful?” phoniness some slick types try to pass off as the genuine
article, just as it isn’t some kind of nonsensical philosophy like, “Some
good comes out of even the worst experiences.” Rather, it’s believing
there is a way out of the darkest forest and you will find it. It’s remembering
the good news in your life as you receive the bad. It’s hanging in there with
yourself and with others when a lesser spirit would hang it up.
and genuinely reliable.
Slot six finishes up this six-pack. Make a
list of people and things you have found to be reliable and then think about
what their common ingredient is. Your list depends on your personal experience;
but here are a few examples of reliability serving the immediate purpose. Sharp
knives cut better than dull ones; cats don’t like having their heads held; Mom
makes the best raison cake in the universe; if you are running late, something comes
up to make you later; and Santa Clause still believes in you even if you stop
believing in him. What is the common ingredient? Everything on the list is
reliable, the way it is, always that way. The same is true for reliable people.
They are not on-again off-again, up-and-down, one way with you and another with
other people, erratic and unpredictable. Reliability is indeed their trademark;
and an hour with them is as was an hour yesterday and as will be an hour
with the Simon who got you there.
Finally, know where you are headed and
whose company you are keeping. You can’t go any which way, with whomever
Simon says, “Take two steps to the left.” Well, okay. This
time you don’t follow old reliable Simon; and this time you give that new Simon
a try; and this time you end up somewhere you certainly don’t want to be.
Playing follow-the-leader can indeed be a risky business. Next time, if you get
a next time, and if old reliable Simon chooses to forgive and forget, you swear
the Simon you follow will be the real Simon, the same Simon you know and trust;
and since you are in a swearing mode anyway, you might as well swear no matter
how tempting it may be to go with the latest example of glitz and smooth talk coming
along, you are resisting the temptation.