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Consider this example.
Karen’s boyfriend and she have been having sex for about four months. It is not something they talked about or made a decision about. It was just something each thought the other wanted and expected. He had been hitting-on her for a few weeks and one thing lead to another. Neither of them wanted to have a hassle in their relationship so that is the way it was.
“Do you want to party?” Karen thought she knew what he was asking but was not sure. She said, “Well, I don’t know. Do you?” He said, “Sure, if you do.” Karen did not want to seem like whatever he might think she was so she said, “Well, okay. Sure. Let’s party.”
“Drink up, it’s only beer. Beer is nothing. I can get us some good stuff. Have you ever had a joint?”
Here’s another example.
This was Jeff’s second time on probation. He was in court with several other people after a fight at a party. He managed to ditch the drugs he had been holding before the police arrived and now wanted them back.
“Where is my stuff? You have it and I want it back.” John said, “I don’t have it, man. I don’t know anything about it.” Jeff moved closer to John and said, “Now. I want it now.” John was getting afraid, “I’m serious. I don’t know anything about your stuff. I paid you for what I got. That’s it, Jeff. I don’t know.”
Jeff grabbed John and said, “I’m going to hurt you. You better give it to me now. You will pay one way or the other. Where is my stuff?”