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Foster Children And Problems Getting Along With Others

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4. They scream and yell at people.

Over a week or so, make a note every time anyone in your home screams or yells at someone. It will be easier to help your foster child if you see she isn’t the only one who is behaving inappropriately. What if no one at your house ever yells? If you have a quiet family, then count the times anyone raises his voice or talks harshly to someone. This is your brand of screaming and yelling.

You will see the child’s behavior is inappropriate only by degrees. She yells and screams too loudly, too much, too long, and at the wrong times. She over does it. That is what her problem really is. To help her, use the tips for dealing with temper tantrums.

Also, be sure no one yells and screams back at her when she does her yelling thing. Each person in your family needs to take responsibility for how he or she handles the child’s behavior. At a family meeting, you can set the rules. Say, “Rosie has a problem with screaming and yelling. We all are going to help her learn better ways to say what she has to say. Let’s agree to do this. Any time Rosie yells at one of us, he or she will wait patiently until the yelling stops. Say this to her. ‘If you have finished yelling, I would like to hear what you want to say to me. Will you tell me in a more appropriate way?'” Just be sure you are ready to be a good camper when your four-year-old reminds you by saying, “No yelling. I only listen when you talk right.”